This month my husband and I are celebrating nine years of marriage. After almost a decade I’ve learned a few lessons. Here are some worth sharing:
- Good marriages get better with time. When I married him I knew I’d been given a gift far beyond all I could have asked for or imagined. I had no idea how much better it would be just nine years later.
- Marriage is complicated. Buying a house, getting a dog, having a career, an opinion or bad day will complicate it more. Adding children to the mix will toss your relationship in the blender on high and puree it until you have to drink that sucker through a straw. (But they’re the best thing that will ever happen to you. Honest.)
- It was wise to marry my friend. Sure, he’s handsome and his touch gives me butterflies but in those times when marriage is rough our friendship is the foundation that helps us navigate to calmer waters.
- I didn’t have a clue what I was doing when we first started out (I’m a little better now). Marriage changes as you move along and the only way to come to the end together is to… well, I really don’t know ’cause we’re not quiet there yet. I’ll keep you posted.
- Subtle hints will get me what I want every time as long as they’re spelled out in plain English and include a photo. The flowers were beautiful! Thanks Babe!
- When it comes to sex take the lead from Nike. Just. Do. It. (You can start reading again, Mom. The sex part is over now.)
- Expectations will drain the life out of a marriage faster than my kid can lick the frosting off a cupcake. Be realistic and remember reality may look more like The Simpsons than Leave it to Beaver.
- If you must move in with your in-laws, have another baby, start a new career, relocate three times and do it all in 18 months it will be hard on your marriage. Ask me how I know.
- Marriage is a balancing act. Think – less His Needs, Her Needs, compromise, & communicate – more downhill skiing meets three legged race. Somewhere between ‘I do’ and ’til death do us part’ you’re bound to wonder what the #$@! you’ve gotten yourself into. Great relationships figure out how to enjoy the ride together.
Here’s to many more years enjoying the ride. Happy Anniversary Handsome!
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